Relationships help us to evolve, like a mirror shining a light back to us. Patterns that originate in our childhood have the ability to sneak into our brand new relationship. If my mother was very sick, and I cared for her as a mother, I will probably feel attracted to a partner who is looking for a mother (he/she might have lost Mum as a child, and is still longing for her love). Now I am a mother to my partner. I bring my pattern to my new system. Repeating the pattern mak