Many of us have heard these words from Maya Angelou, wise and simple. Still, they are sometimes difficult to apply.
Suffering usually -if not always- comes from opposing life, from saying “no” to our reality. From our stubbornness to think that reality should be different, from our inability to accept situations that we cannot change. If we can change our reality though, suffering arises from our belief that others should change, that we cannot do anything about it. Hellinger often says that “suffering is easier than acting”. In both cases, opposing reality brings useless suffering and the impossibility to move on. We feel stuck.
In a constellation we can EXPERIENCE our reality and clearly